Even with the right messaging and tools, many clients still delay the estate planning process for various reasons. Some may assume that estate planning doesn't apply to their stage of life, especially those in their 30s–50s, who often believe their assets will automatically pass to a partner or children. But that assumption overlooks the nuances of state intestacy laws, which determine what happens when someone dies without a will. Others may agree, in theory, that estate planning is important but never follow through, either because the process feels overwhelming or because they're not sure how to begin.
In this guest post, Dave Haughton, Senior Corporate Counsel at Wealth.com, discusses how advisors can help clients overcome the logistical and emotional roadblocks that often get in the way of taking action. For many clients, the hesitation is more psychological than procedural. Estate planning means confronting death, working through sensitive family dynamics, and making decisions they may not feel ready for. Even clients who are willing to engage may find themselves stalled by the ‘paralysis of analysis' when faced with the complexity of estate planning.
To help move forward, advisors may need to shift the conversation from legal documents to personal values – framing estate planning as a way to preserve family harmony and protect loved ones. These motivators can give clients a clearer sense of purpose and make the process feel more meaningful. Life events such as marriage, divorce, the birth of a child, the sale of a business, or an upcoming international trip create natural opportunities for a conversation about estate planning. When no triggering event is present, timely news stories such as a celebrity estate planning incident can offer a relatable entry point and make the stakes more tangible.
If a client is just starting their estate plan or hasn't revisited it in years, the process can feel daunting. Advisors can ease the burden by focusing first on the essentials: a last will and testament, a revocable living trust, and powers of attorney. Addressing these core documents first can provide clarity and momentum, while creating space to revisit more complex issues over time. Estate planning can then become a recurring agenda item and incorporated into a planning service calendar. This approach can make the process more manageable while reducing the anxiety many clients associate with estate planning.
Ultimately, the key point is that while procrastination around estate planning is common, advisors can play a powerful role in helping clients overcome inertia. By making the process feel approachable and incrementally achievable, advisors can help transform estate planning from an intimidating obligation to an empowering act of care!